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CƯỚI SỚM – CHỈ YÊU THÔI LÀ CHƯA ĐỦ! - TTCH

CƯỚI SỚM – CHỈ YÊU THÔI LÀ CHƯA ĐỦ!

Bao nhiêu tuổi thì gọi là Cưới sớm? Bao nhiêu tuổi là Cưới trễ? Không ai có thể đưa ra một con số chính xác để trả lời cho câu hỏi này. Với tôi Cưới sớm hay Cưới trễ, điều quan trọng là nên có một sự cân nhắc kỹ lưỡng trước khi quyết định người mình sẽ gắn bó suốt cuộc đời.

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Hai mươi lăm tuổi tôi lập gia đình. Hai mươi sáu tuổi tôi sinh con gái đầu lòng. Đến nay cuộc hôn nhân của tôi đã được tròn sáu năm. Sáu năm với một cuộc hôn nhân không phải dài nhưng cũng đủ để tôi chiêm nghiệm được nhiều điều.

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Cưới sớm vì yêu!

Là một sinh viên mới ra trường, tôi chấp nhận lời cầu hôn đơn giản chỉ vì…tôi yêu anh. Không một chút toan tính, nghĩ suy tôi đến với anh vì anh đơn độc, và vì anh nói anh yêu tôi… Với tình yêu, tôi hy vọng sẽ giúp xoa dịu những vết thương lòng của anh.

Hai bàn tay trắng, chúng tôi tổ chức Đám Cưới và cùng nhau xây dựng một gia đình. Ba năm trôi qua tôi vẫn luôn giữ trọn niềm tin rằng trong hôn nhân chỉ cần có tình yêu và sự chân thành thì chúng tôi có thể vượt qua được tất cả. Cả hai cùng cố gắng làm việc, tích góp nên kinh tế gia đình cũng có phần cải thiện.

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Nhưng đó cũng là lúc anh…dần thay đổi. Anh lấy lý do rằng như vậy vẫn chưa đủ. Anh muốn lo cho con, lo cho gia đình có một cuộc sống tốt đẹp hơn nên anh phải cật lực kiếm tiền. Anh ra khỏi nhà từ 7 giờ sáng và trở về nhà sớm lắm cũng 12 giờ đêm. Tôi vẫn cứ dại khờ, ngu ngốc tin vào anh, ngoan ngoãn chịu đựng, dành thời gian chăm sóc con để anh yên tâm kiếm tiền. Để rồi đến một ngày tôi phát hiện ra sự thật rằng, anh đã phản bội tôi…

Người ta không đẹp, thậm chí còn lớn tuổi hơn anh. Nhưng có một điều rằng người ta kiếm tiền rất giỏi. Người ta dạy anh kiếm tiền, mua xe hơi cho anh đi, mua đồ hiệu cho anh mặc… và anh gọi đùa người ta là “bà xã”…

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Không cần phải kết hôn bạn cũng có thể đọc được rất nhiều lời khuyên về việc tại sao không nên Cưới sớm. Tôi không biết liệu tôi có còn đủ sức để tha thứ và kéo anh về với mẹ con tôi nữa hay không. Chỉ có điều giờ đây tôi biết chắc chắn rằng tình yêu không phải là tất cả. Để nuôi dưỡng tình yêu thì cần phải có thêm nhiều yếu tố khác, trong đó có kinh tế.

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Tôi đã tin vào cái gọi là sức mạnh của đồng tiền. Bạn có thể kết hôn bất cứ lúc nào bạn muốn nhưng trước khi làm việc đó hãy dừng lại. Hãy dành cho bản thân một khoảng lặng để suy nghĩ, cân nhắc các yếu tố (ngoài tình yêu) trước khi đưa ra sự lựa chọn. Bạn có thể cho đó là thực dụng nhưng với tôi đó là thực tế. Không chỉ tạo dựng cho bản thân mà hãy đòi hỏi nửa còn lại của mình một nền tảng kinh tế ổn định. Tạo lập một gia đình đã khó nhưng để giữ gia đình đó thì không hề đơn giản chút nào.

Đừng chỉ có yêu là Cưới…

Hạnh Phúc

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