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ĐÁM HỎI VÀ ĐÁM CƯỚI, CÓ CẦN THIẾT KHÔNG?

ĐÁM HỎI VÀ ĐÁM CƯỚI, CÓ CẦN THIẾT KHÔNG?

Mẹ và các dì tôi kể: ngày xưa, họ chỉ có một lần tổ chức Đám Cưới thôi… Đám Hỏi, Đám Cưới thì…

Đám-Hỏi-01

Tôi vừa được tham dự Lễ Ăn Hỏi (hay còn gọi là Lễ Đính Hôn) của người chị họ, to gấp… ba lần trong tưởng tượng của tôi. Tôi đã nghĩ quy mô nhỏ hơn nhiều: mỗi bên gia đình chỉ gồm 10 người thân thiết đại diện trò chuyện tìm hiểu về nhau. Vậy mà khi cùng chuẩn bị, tôi đã ngỡ ngàng, mắt chữ A mồm chữ O vì ngạc nhiên… Ôi sao nhiều bàn ghế thế?

Nhưng đêm đó chưa là tất cả! Qua hôm sau, ngày chính thức diễn ra Đám Hỏi, tôi mới thực sự choáng ngợp vì mỗi bên gia đình có tận… 20 người đại diện, vì mỗi bên Cô Dâu Chú Rể đều có họ hàng nội ngoại nữa. Còn về phần khách mời, gần chục bàn mà tôi chỉ biết gần phân nửa, là những người thân thích tôi thường gặp.

Đám-Hỏi-02

Đó là về số lượng người tham dự, còn về quá trình chuẩn bị trang trí và phục vụ tiệc trưa, có rất nhiều điều tôi không được biết. Nhưng tôi có đôi chút hoảng sợ vì sự phức tạp của Đám Hỏi, mà tôi chưa từng tưởng tượng ra. Phải chăng vì tôi đã suy nghĩ quá đơn giản?

Đám-Hỏi-03

Sau lễ, tôi được ngồi nghe mẹ và các dì tôi kể: ngày xưa, họ chỉ có một lần tổ chức Đám Cưới thôi… Tôi biết có những khác biệt về thời gian và thế hệ, ví dụ như ngày xưa hai bên đều nghèo, muốn tổ chức rình rang cũng không có khả năng; ngày xưa họ hàng bạn bè không nhiều thế, hoặc không tiện đến tham dự, v.v… Thật tình, hiện giờ tôi có chút băn khoăn vì e ngại những bước chuẩn bị phức tạp và cả sự quan tâm (có phần quá mức) của mọi người…

Đám Hỏi và cả Đám Cưới, có cần thiết không?

Hay chỉ một lần là đủ?

Gia Linh

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